As a mother of 6, I wish someone had given me this great advice when I was a first-time mum instead of a whole load of fish wife tales.
You Don’t Need to Buy a Thousand Things:
When pregnant with your first child it’s hard not to go on a massive spending spree. My first bit of advice would be stick to the essentials.
The Housework Can Wait:
Spend your days sleeping when the baby sleeps. No one cares that your dishes are not done and that your washing is piling up.
Your baby won’t break:
When I had my first child it took me 10 mins to just change his nappy because I was terrified of hurting him. Babies are a lot more durable than you think and they will not break.[addToAppearHere]
It’s Ok to say No:
If you are not up for visitors then its ok to say no and ask them to come another day. Having a baby is hard work and people will understand if you want time alone with your little bundle.
It is Your Choice:
Whether you decide to breastfeed or bottle feed, co-sleep or have your baby in their cot, know it is your choice. Don’t let people tell you, you are doing things wrong.
Trust your instincts:
Know that if you feel something is not right with your baby and they won’t stop crying, It’s ok to seek medical help. It is always better to be safe than sorry. No one knows your baby better than you do.
Make time for yourself:
Every mother needs a little time to themselves and that’s ok, it does not make you a bad parent. Get your partner or family member to watch the baby while you enjoy a long soak in the bath or a much-needed nap.
Not every mother bonds with their baby at first glance so don’t feel bad if you don’t. Sometimes bonding can take a little time.
Trial and Error:
Nothing is straight forward when it comes to babies, it really is about trial and error to see what works best for you and your little one.
It is ok to Feel Stressed out:
Having a baby is stressful and because you feel stressed does not mean that you are failing as a mother.