I’m a mother of 4 so it seems I’m a pro at dealing with tantrums. My 2-year-old is currently going through the terrible twos stage so I fully understand how it feels to be at your wit’s end. I’m here to give some insight into how I deal with my kids having major melt downs.
I just want to start off by saying that dealing with tantrums can be tough and it’s something every parent faces at some point in their child’s life. I have spent many nights feeling like a bad mum because I raised my voice to my children but let’s face it there is only so much one person can take.
Everyone has their own way of coping when a tantrum arises but I thought I would share with you how I cope and hopefully help other mums going through the same thing. Just remember your child isn’t spawned by the devil and isn’t your enemy. Sometimes the best way of dealing with tantrums is to show them it’s ok to be angry and get to the root of the problem.
Stay calm: Tantrums are often caused by frustration in your child and not always because you said they couldn’t have something.
Don’t give in to demands: If you have told them no then stick to your guns. Saying yes to your child after you have told them they can’t have/do something is showing them if they kick off they will get what they want.
Don’t Talk: Sometimes talking to your child can make their tantrum worse so assess the situation before you try and talk to them.
Talking it out: Once your child is ready to talk then you can explain why they couldn’t have/ do what it was they wanted or ask why they are feeling angry.
Hug it out: Sometimes a hug cures all.
Remember your not a bad mum if you sometimes end up raising your voice. We are just human after all and have our bad days.